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Making Girls Laugh By Not Taking Them Seriously At All

One particular evening, I found myself at a party of about 35-50 people, entertaining two young women. They weren’t my type, but since it was a party, I happily took the opportunity to joke around with them and enjoy myself.

Needless to say, I simply was not taking anything they said seriously at all.

My level of not-seriousness was reaching an unusual high – when they asked the usual getting-to-know-you style questions, I told them I was a space pilot on a secret mission from the moon.

They thought it was hilarious – it was all just fun and games (which is even more true if I would have been attracted these two women).

Just Another Lighthearted Evening Of Making Girls Laugh, Until…

I’m Serious Cat and it’s time for some Serious Dating Advice. No fun allowed, and definitely no laughing.

Everything was going fine… Until a third female was introduced into our conversation.

“This is our friend.”

She had a dour, beaten down look about her. She wasn’t smiling and had rings under her eyes.

Her: Where are you from?

Me: From space, of course.

The other two kept laughing, while this one’s mood dampened even more (if that’s possible).

Her: No. (Long pause.) You’re not not from space.

Me: … (Smiling)

Her: Where are you from, really?

Me: Technically I’m from the moon, which isn’t really space. And how about you, where are you from?

Her: That’s not funny. You didn’t answer my question.

Me: I know, I know.

Her: … (Serious face, not unlike our good friend Serious Cat posted at the top of this article)

Me: … (Still smiling)

Her: Well? Are you gonna tell me where you’re from?

Me: Nope! And hey, I hope you have a nice evening. Good-bye.

And that was that.

It’s Time To Get Serious!!!

We’ve mentioned in previous articles that one of the secrets to making girls laugh is to find one who already want to laugh with you because they’re into you right from the beginning. Chemistry.

The same goofy (and admittedly lame) jokes that the first two women thought were hilarious, offended the third girl.

Who knows why the first two girls thought I was funny. Maybe they were into me, maybe they like space-related humor.

Ultimately it doesn’t matter as I was just having fun, and they were too.

The fact that girl #3 wasn’t laughing was more indicative of what’s going on with her than with my super-awesome skills with the ladies. Her not joining us in our wacky, fun conversation tells me more about her interest in me (or lack thereof) and her core personality.

She was demanding that I enter her stark, bland world of serious questions, serious answers and serious seriousness.

For guys looking to identify a woman who’s both totally into him and has a great matching personality, nothing should set off the red alert alarms faster than her not laughing. I wished them all adieu and took my leave to the  other end of the party where my audience was much more receptive and much more fun.

Making Girls Laugh Is A Tool

Remember, making girls laugh is simply another tool for Identifying women who are into you. It’s also extremely useful for helping you enjoy yourself with a woman who likes you while allowing her to have fun too. Girls just want to have fun.

If she wants to get serious, especially so early in the interaction, my advice is to simply cut her loose and go find a woman better suited to you, because Ms. Serious is going to seriously spoil your spirits the longer you keep her around.

And it works both ways, guys. It’s your job to avoid taking a turn down serious street too, unless you want the high quality women to drop you like a sack of bricks. Ignore the Hollywood myth that women want a guy who gets serious and shares his emotions. It sounds nice and romantic, but it never works out in real life. The strongest couples we have seen and interviewed always keep that playful element strong years and even decades into the relationship.

Rule #1: Never take anything she says or does seriously.

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Making Girls Laugh By Not Taking Them Seriously At All

One particular evening, I found myself at a party of about 35-50 people, entertaining two young women. They weren’t my type, but since it was a party, I happily took the opportunity to joke around with them and enjoy myself.

Needless to say, I simply was not taking anything they said seriously at all.

My level of not-seriousness was reaching an unusual high – when they asked the usual getting-to-know-you style questions, I told them I was a space pilot on a secret mission from the moon.

They thought it was hilarious – it was all just fun and games (which is even more true if I would have been attracted these two women).

Just Another Lighthearted Evening Of Making Girls Laugh, Until…

I’m Serious Cat and it’s time for some Serious Dating Advice. No fun allowed, and definitely no laughing.

Everything was going fine… Until a third female was introduced into our conversation.

“This is our friend.”

She had a dour, beaten down look about her. She wasn’t smiling and had rings under her eyes.

Her: Where are you from?

Me: From space, of course.

The other two kept laughing, while this one’s mood dampened even more (if that’s possible).

Her: No. (Long pause.) You’re not not from space.

Me: … (Smiling)

Her: Where are you from, really?

Me: Technically I’m from the moon, which isn’t really space. And how about you, where are you from?

Her: That’s not funny. You didn’t answer my question.

Me: I know, I know.

Her: … (Serious face, not unlike our good friend Serious Cat posted at the top of this article)

Me: … (Still smiling)

Her: Well? Are you gonna tell me where you’re from?

Me: Nope! And hey, I hope you have a nice evening. Good-bye.

And that was that.

It’s Time To Get Serious!!!

We’ve mentioned in previous articles that one of the secrets to making girls laugh is to find one who already want to laugh with you because they’re into you right from the beginning. Chemistry.

The same goofy (and admittedly lame) jokes that the first two women thought were hilarious, offended the third girl.

Who knows why the first two girls thought I was funny. Maybe they were into me, maybe they like space-related humor.

Ultimately it doesn’t matter as I was just having fun, and they were too.

The fact that girl #3 wasn’t laughing was more indicative of what’s going on with her than with my super-awesome skills with the ladies. Her not joining us in our wacky, fun conversation tells me more about her interest in me (or lack thereof) and her core personality.

She was demanding that I enter her stark, bland world of serious questions, serious answers and serious seriousness.

For guys looking to identify a woman who’s both totally into him and has a great matching personality, nothing should set off the red alert alarms faster than her not laughing. I wished them all adieu and took my leave to the  other end of the party where my audience was much more receptive and much more fun.

Making Girls Laugh Is A Tool

Remember, making girls laugh is simply another tool for Identifying women who are into you. It’s also extremely useful for helping you enjoy yourself with a woman who likes you while allowing her to have fun too. Girls just want to have fun.

If she wants to get serious, especially so early in the interaction, my advice is to simply cut her loose and go find a woman better suited to you, because Ms. Serious is going to seriously spoil your spirits the longer you keep her around.

And it works both ways, guys. It’s your job to avoid taking a turn down serious street too, unless you want the high quality women to drop you like a sack of bricks. Ignore the Hollywood myth that women want a guy who gets serious and shares his emotions. It sounds nice and romantic, but it never works out in real life. The strongest couples we have seen and interviewed always keep that playful element strong years and even decades into the relationship.

Rule #1: Never take anything she says or does seriously.

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When you’re getting out and about to meet more women, we highly recommend only approaching the hot ones. By hot, we mean only women who you personally find attractive – whatever floats your boat. This means do NOT approach ones who don’t do it for you.

Why?

If you only approach hot girls, then you’ll only get hot girls’ numbers. If you only have hot girls’ numbers, you can only go on dates with hot girls. If you only go on dates with hot girls, then beauty becomes the bare minimum requirement for the women in your life and you can begin to screen for other qualities such as her core behavior and attitude.

“Qualifying” Vs. Screening

This is the big difference between what lots of dating advice out there calls “qualifying” and what we call screening.

Qualifying is “fishing” for things about the girl that you can compliment her on in order to make her “feel” like you like her for more than just her looks. It’s dishonest. And even when guys are trying to be honest with it, it’s unnecessary and hurts their own standing with the girl.

Here’s an example of what we would consider “qualifying:”

Guy: Do you play an instrument?

Really Hot Girl: Well, I used to play trombone about 15 years ago in middle school.

Guy: Whoooooa, sweet! You’re a muscian! I love girls who are into music!

Here’s an example of what we consider screening:

Really Hot Girl: Do you have a girlfriend?

You: You’re actually the very first girl I’ve ever talked to! I’m really shy.

Really Hot Girl: Haha! Yeah, right!

You: How about you? Do you have a boyfriend?

Really Hot Girl: Oh well, I just broke up with my ex a couple months ago. He makes me so mad, you know?! Whenever I still see him around sometimes since I know what parties he’ll be at, and I make sure to let him have a piece of my mind!

You: Cool. (Internally thinking: Run! Disqualified! Time to go meet some other women.)

 

ust because she’s hot doesn’t mean you should lower your standards. Keep your hotness screen on!

Qualifying is trying to force women to have some quality about them that you like about them, even when they don’t.

Screening is getting rid of the ones who actually don’t have anything you like about them. Or getting rid of women who have qualities you don’t want in a mate.

Qualifying is manipulative, feels nerve-wracking and doesn’t work on women who aren’t into you.

Screening allows you to maintain your dignity, accepts reality as it is and allows you to find women who are into you about 750% faster than Chasing.

Qualifying is a trick to try to convince hot girls that guys have a legit reason for being into them besides their looks.

Screening is when good looks for your dates are the bare minimum requirement and you’re starting to look deeper at their core personalities and attitudes.

Qualifying presupposes that you will like the girl no matter what as long as she is hot, all you have to do is rationalize what you like about her. (Read: no standards)

Screening presupposes that you are willing to drop a girl, even if she’s hot, if she doesn’t live up to your standards.

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When you’re getting out and about to meet more women, we highly recommend only approaching the hot ones. By hot, we mean only women who you personally find attractive – whatever floats your boat. This means do NOT approach ones who don’t do it for you.

Why?

If you only approach hot girls, then you’ll only get hot girls’ numbers. If you only have hot girls’ numbers, you can only go on dates with hot girls. If you only go on dates with hot girls, then beauty becomes the bare minimum requirement for the women in your life and you can begin to screen for other qualities such as her core behavior and attitude.

“Qualifying” Vs. Screening

This is the big difference between what lots of dating advice out there calls “qualifying” and what we call screening.

Qualifying is “fishing” for things about the girl that you can compliment her on in order to make her “feel” like you like her for more than just her looks. It’s dishonest. And even when guys are trying to be honest with it, it’s unnecessary and hurts their own standing with the girl.

Here’s an example of what we would consider “qualifying:”

Guy: Do you play an instrument?

Really Hot Girl: Well, I used to play trombone about 15 years ago in middle school.

Guy: Whoooooa, sweet! You’re a muscian! I love girls who are into music!

Here’s an example of what we consider screening:

Really Hot Girl: Do you have a girlfriend?

You: You’re actually the very first girl I’ve ever talked to! I’m really shy.

Really Hot Girl: Haha! Yeah, right!

You: How about you? Do you have a boyfriend?

Really Hot Girl: Oh well, I just broke up with my ex a couple months ago. He makes me so mad, you know?! Whenever I still see him around sometimes since I know what parties he’ll be at, and I make sure to let him have a piece of my mind!

You: Cool. (Internally thinking: Run! Disqualified! Time to go meet some other women.)

 

ust because she’s hot doesn’t mean you should lower your standards. Keep your hotness screen on!

Qualifying is trying to force women to have some quality about them that you like about them, even when they don’t.

Screening is getting rid of the ones who actually don’t have anything you like about them. Or getting rid of women who have qualities you don’t want in a mate.

Qualifying is manipulative, feels nerve-wracking and doesn’t work on women who aren’t into you.

Screening allows you to maintain your dignity, accepts reality as it is and allows you to find women who are into you about 750% faster than Chasing.

Qualifying is a trick to try to convince hot girls that guys have a legit reason for being into them besides their looks.

Screening is when good looks for your dates are the bare minimum requirement and you’re starting to look deeper at their core personalities and attitudes.

Qualifying presupposes that you will like the girl no matter what as long as she is hot, all you have to do is rationalize what you like about her. (Read: no standards)

Screening presupposes that you are willing to drop a girl, even if she’s hot, if she doesn’t live up to your standards.

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Why is it so hard to figure out how to date multiple women at once without much effort? Here are some simple strategies and actions to help you date multiple women at the same time…

Dear Loveawake,

I’ve been dating 4 different girls and wondering how I will juggle them this coming weekend. Each of them is texting me like crazy and vying for my time. It’s a problem I’ve never had before. Advice, please.

-Dude X

This is a common problem for guys who have had a bit of success with women, but haven’t developed the management skills needed: Why is it so hard to date multiple women at once without much effort?

Well, it’s not all that hard, but you gotta change your thinking first. Then you can start to develop some real management skills.

How To Date Multiple Women: It Starts Here

Most guys enter the whole “Dating Community” with some experience when it comes to women. Many have had long-term girlfriends before, but it’s usually been one at a time; sequential rather than simultaneous.

Once they start reading the standard ‘dating’ fare, studying the videos, and even attend some ‘Bootcamps’ out there, they begin meeting more women and then suddenly they find their lives spinning out of control as their social calendar overloads, text messages coming at them from all directions, and women all over the place whining and whinging for attention.

(Yeah, such a problem! you might say. But trust us, it gets old really fast, and there’s something decidedly un-masculine when a guy sits in Starbucks by himself for hours at a time, just staring zombie-like at his Smart-phone while typing away furiously.)

Most of the material out there just talks about getting the girl, but not about how to maintain an even keel and keep things flowing smoothly and easily.

Today we’ll discuss a few of the key elements guys need to be aware of in order to take control of their lives and time in order to have more success with women, and a whole lotta less aggra, besides.

How To Date Multiple Women: Stop The ‘Magical Thinking’

Keep in mind most of what we’re advocating here challenges a lot of the limiting beliefs rampant in the Seduction Community, but if guys are intellectually honest and do their best to objectively challenge their assumptions, they’ll come out at the other end with a much better self-image and improved self-esteem as they better learn how to not only separate the chaff from the wheat, but get out of the granary altogether and search for more nutritious fare.

Just as having the right ‘internal state’ or ‘inner game’ is pretty much irrelevant when a semi is barreling down on one at 70 mphs – way too many guys drank the ‘Inner Game will solve all my problems’ kool-aid and then kid themselves into believing that right action will just ‘magically’ occur and they’ll be naturally walking the path of success with women if they simply strive to be void of ego, centered in their Infinite Mojo, dipping deep into the Eternal Nimbus, and other such claptrap (sadly, this is all stuff we’ve seen pushed onto too many guys whose only real problem is that they aren’t meeting enough women).

Sure, it feels really groovy to believe ‘I am enough and I can do anything, I am the Prize, I can Lead Her and Endure Her Tests, my Internal State continues to change as I push my personal boundaries to learn and grow, blah blah blah,’ but none of that crap is gonna save you when girls are burnin’ up your text Inbox and you haven’t got a plan in mind to arrange and prioritize your dancecard.

It’s the fallacy of ‘Magical Thinking’ in action when one is existing simply at effect, flying by the seat of one’s pants, and basically living on a wing and a prayer. Sure, it’s exhilarating yes, but hardly measured and steady.

So let’s just stop with all the airy-fairy, feely-goody gobbledygook and give you some nuts and bolts to get your woman thang under control.

How To Date Multiple Women: Simplify

First off, ixnay the uggling-jay; it’s un-manly.

‘Juggling’ implies a situation that’s out of control, requiring lots of time and energy to keep shit from spilling all over the place and making a mess.

Rather, manage your ladies and manage your time.

Yes, we date multiple women at the same time until we find one we really like and go exclusive with her. We schedule these ladies throughout the week for lunches, dinners, and fun times afterwards.

Since none of them are our exclusive girlfriend, we don’t see any of them on the weekends. We keep our weekends free to hang with our buddies, enjoy our manly hobbies, and keep the ladies guessing as to who we’re with, what we’re doing, and where we are.

Once you give a girl a weekend, she’ll expect it ALL the time, and when you slot in a different lady to take her place, she’ll most likely get all upset and give you no end of grief.

Better to never have to deal with the problem in the first place.

Ask your ladies out for weekdays and weekday evenings, making sure to never see any one of them more than once a week – ten days, or so. More and they start seeing you as a boyfriend (even if you say you aren’t one), less and it’s just plain rude unless she’s totally down with being basically just a jump-off (yes, there are ladies like that out there).

Keep your ladies well-managed and yourself outta trouble.

How To Date Multiple Women: Unplug Your Umbilical Cord

Next, unplug your umbilical cord from your DumbPhone and stop with all this texting.

It’s lame and un-manly.

We always tell our guys that a major key to success with women is giving them the gift of missing you.

How can they ‘miss’ you when you’re constantly up their butts with text messages?

Answer: you can’t!

Skype, Line, What App, Facebook, yada yada may as well be the spawn of the devil when it comes to dating women who have a lot going for them in life.

We’re all about managing and simplifying things for guys when it comes to their interactions with women. All it takes is a one-minute phone call once a week or so to ask her out on a date.

Four women means you’ll be spending about 4 minutes on the phone every week – 6 minutes max.

Compare that with the hours guys typically waste giving themselves carpal tunnel syndrome just so they can ‘get a little.’ C’mon, guys! Just call her up and say,

Hey, Her Name, it’s Dude X. How’re you doing. Fine, thanks for asking. I’m calling to ask you out for a date – billiards and Mexican. We’ll have a lot of fun. Which is better for you, next Tuesday evening or Wednesday. Cool. I’ll pick you up at your place say around 7pm. I had a fun time talking to you. Bye.

That’s all there is to it.

Then – as they say in Las Vegas – you go ‘dark’: You don’t call her, you don’t text her, you have no contact with her.

Let her think you were abducted by aliens or whisked away by the FBI and stashed in Witness Protection.

Gone.

Whoosh.

That gets her missing you and wondering about you (mostly wondering if you’re wondering about her wondering about you, actually).

When guys stop with all the fuzzy-wuzzy Inner Game self-help BS and start utilizing a tight framework of actual measurable, actionable steps that get them consistent positive results, they’ll start to see some real change in their lives.

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Why is it so hard to figure out how to date multiple women at once without much effort? Here are some simple strategies and actions to help you date multiple women at the same time…

Dear Loveawake,

I’ve been dating 4 different girls and wondering how I will juggle them this coming weekend. Each of them is texting me like crazy and vying for my time. It’s a problem I’ve never had before. Advice, please.

-Dude X

This is a common problem for guys who have had a bit of success with women, but haven’t developed the management skills needed: Why is it so hard to date multiple women at once without much effort?

Well, it’s not all that hard, but you gotta change your thinking first. Then you can start to develop some real management skills.

How To Date Multiple Women: It Starts Here

Most guys enter the whole “Dating Community” with some experience when it comes to women. Many have had long-term girlfriends before, but it’s usually been one at a time; sequential rather than simultaneous.

Once they start reading the standard ‘dating’ fare, studying the videos, and even attend some ‘Bootcamps’ out there, they begin meeting more women and then suddenly they find their lives spinning out of control as their social calendar overloads, text messages coming at them from all directions, and women all over the place whining and whinging for attention.

(Yeah, such a problem! you might say. But trust us, it gets old really fast, and there’s something decidedly un-masculine when a guy sits in Starbucks by himself for hours at a time, just staring zombie-like at his Smart-phone while typing away furiously.)

Most of the material out there just talks about getting the girl, but not about how to maintain an even keel and keep things flowing smoothly and easily.

Today we’ll discuss a few of the key elements guys need to be aware of in order to take control of their lives and time in order to have more success with women, and a whole lotta less aggra, besides.

How To Date Multiple Women: Stop The ‘Magical Thinking’

Keep in mind most of what we’re advocating here challenges a lot of the limiting beliefs rampant in the Seduction Community, but if guys are intellectually honest and do their best to objectively challenge their assumptions, they’ll come out at the other end with a much better self-image and improved self-esteem as they better learn how to not only separate the chaff from the wheat, but get out of the granary altogether and search for more nutritious fare.

Just as having the right ‘internal state’ or ‘inner game’ is pretty much irrelevant when a semi is barreling down on one at 70 mphs – way too many guys drank the ‘Inner Game will solve all my problems’ kool-aid and then kid themselves into believing that right action will just ‘magically’ occur and they’ll be naturally walking the path of success with women if they simply strive to be void of ego, centered in their Infinite Mojo, dipping deep into the Eternal Nimbus, and other such claptrap (sadly, this is all stuff we’ve seen pushed onto too many guys whose only real problem is that they aren’t meeting enough women).

Sure, it feels really groovy to believe ‘I am enough and I can do anything, I am the Prize, I can Lead Her and Endure Her Tests, my Internal State continues to change as I push my personal boundaries to learn and grow, blah blah blah,’ but none of that crap is gonna save you when girls are burnin’ up your text Inbox and you haven’t got a plan in mind to arrange and prioritize your dancecard.

It’s the fallacy of ‘Magical Thinking’ in action when one is existing simply at effect, flying by the seat of one’s pants, and basically living on a wing and a prayer. Sure, it’s exhilarating yes, but hardly measured and steady.

So let’s just stop with all the airy-fairy, feely-goody gobbledygook and give you some nuts and bolts to get your woman thang under control.

How To Date Multiple Women: Simplify

First off, ixnay the uggling-jay; it’s un-manly.

‘Juggling’ implies a situation that’s out of control, requiring lots of time and energy to keep shit from spilling all over the place and making a mess.

Rather, manage your ladies and manage your time.

Yes, we date multiple women at the same time until we find one we really like and go exclusive with her. We schedule these ladies throughout the week for lunches, dinners, and fun times afterwards.

Since none of them are our exclusive girlfriend, we don’t see any of them on the weekends. We keep our weekends free to hang with our buddies, enjoy our manly hobbies, and keep the ladies guessing as to who we’re with, what we’re doing, and where we are.

Once you give a girl a weekend, she’ll expect it ALL the time, and when you slot in a different lady to take her place, she’ll most likely get all upset and give you no end of grief.

Better to never have to deal with the problem in the first place.

Ask your ladies out for weekdays and weekday evenings, making sure to never see any one of them more than once a week – ten days, or so. More and they start seeing you as a boyfriend (even if you say you aren’t one), less and it’s just plain rude unless she’s totally down with being basically just a jump-off (yes, there are ladies like that out there).

Keep your ladies well-managed and yourself outta trouble.

How To Date Multiple Women: Unplug Your Umbilical Cord

Next, unplug your umbilical cord from your DumbPhone and stop with all this texting.

It’s lame and un-manly.

We always tell our guys that a major key to success with women is giving them the gift of missing you.

How can they ‘miss’ you when you’re constantly up their butts with text messages?

Answer: you can’t!

Skype, Line, What App, Facebook, yada yada may as well be the spawn of the devil when it comes to dating women who have a lot going for them in life.

We’re all about managing and simplifying things for guys when it comes to their interactions with women. All it takes is a one-minute phone call once a week or so to ask her out on a date.

Four women means you’ll be spending about 4 minutes on the phone every week – 6 minutes max.

Compare that with the hours guys typically waste giving themselves carpal tunnel syndrome just so they can ‘get a little.’ C’mon, guys! Just call her up and say,

Hey, Her Name, it’s Dude X. How’re you doing. Fine, thanks for asking. I’m calling to ask you out for a date – billiards and Mexican. We’ll have a lot of fun. Which is better for you, next Tuesday evening or Wednesday. Cool. I’ll pick you up at your place say around 7pm. I had a fun time talking to you. Bye.

That’s all there is to it.

Then – as they say in Las Vegas – you go ‘dark’: You don’t call her, you don’t text her, you have no contact with her.

Let her think you were abducted by aliens or whisked away by the FBI and stashed in Witness Protection.

Gone.

Whoosh.

That gets her missing you and wondering about you (mostly wondering if you’re wondering about her wondering about you, actually).

When guys stop with all the fuzzy-wuzzy Inner Game self-help BS and start utilizing a tight framework of actual measurable, actionable steps that get them consistent positive results, they’ll start to see some real change in their lives.

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It’s supposedly the hottest erotic novel in decades, so should guys be checking it out? Read our take on the ’50 Shades of Grey’ phenomenon.

Let’s make one thing perfectly clear – this is NOT a review of the ’50 Shades’ trilogy. Mainly because all three books have been hilariously ripped apart by the brilliant Katrina Lumsden – no, really, her reviews are totally funny and worth checking out – and I have nothing to add. Go ahead, give them a read and I’ll wait here. Promise.

So you’ve now got a general idea what the brou-ha-ha is all out about when it comes to the tale of Ana Steele and Christian Gray.

Haha.

Worth the chuckles, eh?

Good.

Now, back on point.

Let’s get down to the nitty gritty – should you, as a guy, bother picking up this trash and reading it?

Our answer is a very carefully qualified ‘It Depends.’

Should guys read it? Read this article for the answer.

If the women you seem to attract and date are all bringing ’50 Shades’ up as a topic of conversation, if it seems that no matter which girl you open when and where that sometime during your initial date SHE’s the one who opens the ’50 Shades’ box and wants to talk about it, then absolutely YES! You definitely should read these books. By reading them all cover to cover, at the very least you’ll have an understanding of what she’s going on about. At best, you’ll have the opportunity to disqualify her for being bat-shit insane and not worth your emotional investment. 

(You can, of course, still date her as long as you remember the score and keep your emotions in check. Good luck.)

Keep in mind that she must be the one who initiates the discussion on ’50 Shades’ – not you – and as long as the guy does not tip his hand immediately (if ever) that he’s read them, then the Cool Guy can get some good interview questions in that will let his date talk up a storm.

And, in her mind, that’s what a good date is all about: she gets to talk and talk about stuff that interests her while the guy nods and smiles and grunts occasionally. That makes her feel comfortable that he’s willing to listen to her, and that drives up her liking him (assuming she actually liked him from the beginning).

When it comes to ’50 Shades’ here are some good interview questions to ask:

  • “Tell me 3 things about the books that you really liked?”
  • “What character/s could you relate to best and why?”
  • “Which scenes in the book most resonated with you, and why?”
  • “Why do you think these books are said to be sooo popular with women right now?”

The answers to those questions should lead to some excellent follow-up questions and keep her talking for a good long while.

If your date liked the books for the sex scenes, be sure to carefully read and study Philip Miller and Molly Devon’s classic ‘Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns’ the absolute best introduction and tour through the fascinating world of BDSM. There’s lots of gold to be mined in that book.

Is she looking for a guy like Christian Gray?

If she says so, you’ll definitely want to find out what aspect about him she finds so attractive. If she tells you it’s his money, good looks, great family, and ‘generosity’ (read he happily buys me expensive things like cars, houses, and jewelry), and that’s not you, then at least you know what you’re getting yourself into. You’re at Golddigger Central – be sure to mind the doors as they close on your head.

More than a decade ago, HBO’s ‘Sex and the City’ messed up the minds of an entire generation of women in their late 20s/early 30s and made them pretty much useless as far as relationships go; filling their heads with all kinds of crap about what their expectations should be (EVERYTHING! I want it ALL – and now!!) along with what their responsibilities and obligations were (none!) when it came to their romantic partners and relationships. ’50 Shades of Grey’ is merely a reboot of this tired, selfish attitude so prevalent in low-value women today.

Now, what about all you guys who haven’t encountered any ladies at all who want to talk about these books?

What if it never comes up as a topic of discussion?

In that case, lucky boy, just don’t bother with them. Just let that sleeping dog lie and quietly walk on past. The stories are total trash and nothing to concern yourself over. Just another shovel of steaming horse dung foist upon us by popular culture to create a greater divide between women and men to make it more difficult for both sides to develop the emotional maturity to enjoy mutually fulfilling relationships.

Nothing you haven’t seen a million times before.

Be grateful you’ve been spared the agony of reading them. Remember, poor Katrina still in rehab after reading them and she’s a SHE.

But you still might want to check out the Miller and Devon book.

Because nothing beats a great mutually agreed-upon fantasy between consenting adults.

Very colorful times, indeed.

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It’s supposedly the hottest erotic novel in decades, so should guys be checking it out? Read our take on the ’50 Shades of Grey’ phenomenon.

Let’s make one thing perfectly clear – this is NOT a review of the ’50 Shades’ trilogy. Mainly because all three books have been hilariously ripped apart by the brilliant Katrina Lumsden – no, really, her reviews are totally funny and worth checking out – and I have nothing to add. Go ahead, give them a read and I’ll wait here. Promise.

So you’ve now got a general idea what the brou-ha-ha is all out about when it comes to the tale of Ana Steele and Christian Gray.

Haha.

Worth the chuckles, eh?

Good.

Now, back on point.

Let’s get down to the nitty gritty – should you, as a guy, bother picking up this trash and reading it?

Our answer is a very carefully qualified ‘It Depends.’

Should guys read it? Read this article for the answer.

If the women you seem to attract and date are all bringing ’50 Shades’ up as a topic of conversation, if it seems that no matter which girl you open when and where that sometime during your initial date SHE’s the one who opens the ’50 Shades’ box and wants to talk about it, then absolutely YES! You definitely should read these books. By reading them all cover to cover, at the very least you’ll have an understanding of what she’s going on about. At best, you’ll have the opportunity to disqualify her for being bat-shit insane and not worth your emotional investment. 

(You can, of course, still date her as long as you remember the score and keep your emotions in check. Good luck.)

Keep in mind that she must be the one who initiates the discussion on ’50 Shades’ – not you – and as long as the guy does not tip his hand immediately (if ever) that he’s read them, then the Cool Guy can get some good interview questions in that will let his date talk up a storm.

And, in her mind, that’s what a good date is all about: she gets to talk and talk about stuff that interests her while the guy nods and smiles and grunts occasionally. That makes her feel comfortable that he’s willing to listen to her, and that drives up her liking him (assuming she actually liked him from the beginning).

When it comes to ’50 Shades’ here are some good interview questions to ask:

  • “Tell me 3 things about the books that you really liked?”
  • “What character/s could you relate to best and why?”
  • “Which scenes in the book most resonated with you, and why?”
  • “Why do you think these books are said to be sooo popular with women right now?”

The answers to those questions should lead to some excellent follow-up questions and keep her talking for a good long while.

If your date liked the books for the sex scenes, be sure to carefully read and study Philip Miller and Molly Devon’s classic ‘Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns’ the absolute best introduction and tour through the fascinating world of BDSM. There’s lots of gold to be mined in that book.

Is she looking for a guy like Christian Gray?

If she says so, you’ll definitely want to find out what aspect about him she finds so attractive. If she tells you it’s his money, good looks, great family, and ‘generosity’ (read he happily buys me expensive things like cars, houses, and jewelry), and that’s not you, then at least you know what you’re getting yourself into. You’re at Golddigger Central – be sure to mind the doors as they close on your head.

More than a decade ago, HBO’s ‘Sex and the City’ messed up the minds of an entire generation of women in their late 20s/early 30s and made them pretty much useless as far as relationships go; filling their heads with all kinds of crap about what their expectations should be (EVERYTHING! I want it ALL – and now!!) along with what their responsibilities and obligations were (none!) when it came to their romantic partners and relationships. ’50 Shades of Grey’ is merely a reboot of this tired, selfish attitude so prevalent in low-value women today.

Now, what about all you guys who haven’t encountered any ladies at all who want to talk about these books?

What if it never comes up as a topic of discussion?

In that case, lucky boy, just don’t bother with them. Just let that sleeping dog lie and quietly walk on past. The stories are total trash and nothing to concern yourself over. Just another shovel of steaming horse dung foist upon us by popular culture to create a greater divide between women and men to make it more difficult for both sides to develop the emotional maturity to enjoy mutually fulfilling relationships.

Nothing you haven’t seen a million times before.

Be grateful you’ve been spared the agony of reading them. Remember, poor Katrina still in rehab after reading them and she’s a SHE.

But you still might want to check out the Miller and Devon book.

Because nothing beats a great mutually agreed-upon fantasy between consenting adults.

Very colorful times, indeed.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594643103) } [4]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(42) "The #1 Best Time To Approach A Girl (Ever)" ["link"]=> string(78) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/the-1-best-time-to-approach-a-girl-ever/" ["comments"]=> string(86) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/the-1-best-time-to-approach-a-girl-ever/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 12:08:35 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(336) "Dating Adviceadvice for approaching a girlapproach beautiful womenapproaching a girlbest time to approach a girlbest time to approach a womanbest time to approach girlsbest time to approach womenBS excusesdating tips for menGeneral Dating Advicehow to pick up girlshow to talk to beautiful womenmassive actionmeet new womentaking action" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5369" ["description"]=> string(328) "Want to know the absolute best time to approach girls? After thousands of tests and years of research, we’ve discovered the best time to approach women. Read on to discover when to approach. Just imagine if you knew the perfect time to approach girls… Then you could feel good about going to approach women, so […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(3378) "

Want to know the absolute best time to approach girls? After thousands of tests and years of research, we’ve discovered the best time to approach women. Read on to discover when to approach.

Just imagine if you knew the perfect time to approach girls… Then you could feel good about going to approach women, so long as it was the right timing.

Today, we share the answer to the question: When is the best time to approach girls?

And the answer is…

Right now!

Because…

Warning: There Is One Caveat!

When is the best time to approach girls? Read more to learn the perfect time to approach.

None of anything anyone has ever written on the topic of approaching women matters at all unless you get up and go take action right now.

That means you must physically draw your body away from the computer. Pull your hands up and away from the keyboard. If you’re in a chair, stand up. If you’re dressed well, continue out the door. If not, go put on a suit. Step away from the PC, go to the front door, step outside and go start talking to women right now.

Seriously.

Go.

Come back when you’re done and record your thoughts about what happened. Take down stats if you talked to a whole bunch of girls.

Above all, enjoy yourself, learn a whole lot, and let us know how it went (leave a comment below!).

But seriously…

Go…

Now…

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Want to know the absolute best time to approach girls? After thousands of tests and years of research, we’ve discovered the best time to approach women. Read on to discover when to approach.

Just imagine if you knew the perfect time to approach girls… Then you could feel good about going to approach women, so long as it was the right timing.

Today, we share the answer to the question: When is the best time to approach girls?

And the answer is…

Right now!

Because…

Warning: There Is One Caveat!

When is the best time to approach girls? Read more to learn the perfect time to approach.

None of anything anyone has ever written on the topic of approaching women matters at all unless you get up and go take action right now.

That means you must physically draw your body away from the computer. Pull your hands up and away from the keyboard. If you’re in a chair, stand up. If you’re dressed well, continue out the door. If not, go put on a suit. Step away from the PC, go to the front door, step outside and go start talking to women right now.

Seriously.

Go.

Come back when you’re done and record your thoughts about what happened. Take down stats if you talked to a whole bunch of girls.

Above all, enjoy yourself, learn a whole lot, and let us know how it went (leave a comment below!).

But seriously…

Go…

Now…

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594642115) } [5]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(49) "4 Deadly Topics That Ruin Good Date Conversations" ["link"]=> string(88) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/4-deadly-topics-that-ruin-good-date-conversations/" ["comments"]=> string(96) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/4-deadly-topics-that-ruin-good-date-conversations/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 11:03:09 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(48) "Dating Adviceadvicecommunicationdatingfirst date" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5364" ["description"]=> string(307) "One of the questions about women we often get from guys is “What should I say when I first meet her?” Because of the huge range of good date conversation topics, this can be a tricky question. It’s much easier to focus on the question, “What should I AVOID saying when I first meet her?” […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(6952) "

One of the questions about women we often get from guys is “What should I say when I first meet her?” Because of the huge range of good date conversation topics, this can be a tricky question. It’s much easier to focus on the question, “What should I AVOID saying when I first meet her?”

With that in mind, we’re presenting you a handful of topics that you definitely do NOT want to bring up if you want to impress your date. Yes, some of these may may fly right in the face of what commonly passes as dating advice for men these days. However, we don’t hold back when it comes to dispelling myths about generic, socially-acceptable yet ultimately useless and/or harmful men’s dating advice. Kiss your sacred cows good-bye. Our advice to you is based on statistical proof of what helps guys enjoy exciting, fulfilling dates with high quality women.

Political discussion with a woman you’re meeting for the first time? Don’t go there!

1. Good date conversation does NOT include talking about politics, religion or your dead pet chameleon

Don’t. Just don’t. Not only does talking about topics like these repel attractive women faster than body odor, nobody even cares about anyone else’s soapbox tirades. Everyone’s got an opinion, and they’d much rather you LISTEN to theirs rather than spout yours off. This one’s easy – just avoid these topics, and if they come up, joke them off while redirecting the conversation back to something light, playful and funny.

2. Listing accomplishments, skills or bragging is not good date conversation and here’s why…

Some guys go on and on endlessly about each and every accomplishment in their lives. And once again, nobody cares. Women want to talk about themselves, and they want YOU to LISTEN.

The PUA call it a ‘DHV story’ because they think it demonstrates or displays high value. We call it bragging. While it may not be subtle enough for you and your bro’s to realize it is bragging, high value women know it for what it is. At the end of the day, a brag is a brag is a brag, no matter what hip, cool label you attach to it.

If she likes you right from the beginning, brag stories will work because, well, she already likes you (until she realizes that the only people who brag are the ones who are over-compensating). And if she doesn’t like the guy right off the bat, then no ‘cool story’ he shares with her is ever going to change her mind about how to feel about him on a core level (although the ill-intentioned girl out there might become convinced that you will give them free dates, meals, or attention).

Keep the conversation about her, while making her laugh. This is especially important for when you’re meeting women on the street, in bookstores, in cafes and other daily life places out and about town.

3. Talk about past girlfriends is really (really, really) not good date conversation

Don’t ever talk about them. The past is the past is the past. When any guy (or woman, for that matter) brings up an ex, someone they hooked up with years ago or even a crush from their elementary school day, it’s no longer the past. By speaking about it, it has become the PRESENT… And that basically throws a monkey wrench into the whole smooth, happy, light, playful and fun interaction we’re hoping to have with this girl we just met. That’s a lot of heavy, especially for someone we barely even know.

Some guys might say, “Oh, but that’s not true! When I was talking to this chick about how she looks like my old girlfriend, she smiled, leaned in, nodded emphatically and laughed!” While that might be true, we’re always thinking big and thinking of the long game here at Loveawake. Women can (and likely will) remember and use any random guys’ happy trip down ex-girlfriend memory lane against them at the most inopportune time.

It’s a topic that, if it doesn’t turn things sour immediately right there and then when you’re meeting her for the first time, will inevitably come back later to take a nice, healthy chomp out of your posterior. So keep the past in the past where it belongs. If you really think you need to talk about it… Well, you’re probably not meeting enough new women.

4. Please don’t talk about past mistakes or embarrassing moments with girls (but only if you want good date conversation)

When we’re interacting with women, whether we’re stepping to her on the street to get her number or putting our best foot forward on the first date, we strive to cultivate a good Image. And with that Image, we’re not aiming for perfection or invincibility. We are, however, aiming for Amazingness – and that means NOT vomiting out the sordid details about our past blunders. If she likes you, she will imagine you as Amazing a guy as you let her. Don’t take yourself off the pedestal.

We sometimes hear guys argue that sharing their less-than-flattering moments with women they meet or date shows off their vulnerability in an attractive way, something akin to the allure of the hair-pulled-over-one-eye-guitar-playing-emo-boy. Some ‘seduction’ guys might even go so far as to package this story up as deliberate “vulnerability gambit” to offset their ‘player’ vibe. And if she’s really into the guy, then it’ll work… Because anything else he does will work (as she’s already into him). However, rather than set a bad precedent with the vulnerability games, it’s much better in the long run to work on interacting with her in a way that let’s you build happy, fulfilling experiences with high quality women so that when the the Right Girl comes into your life, you’re ready.

Be happy that she doesn’t yet know about the goofy mistakes in your past. If she’s a really great girl who’s intelligent, really into you and ends up dating you for a long time, she’ll probably find them all out on her own without you ever needing to tell her. Don’t salt your own game by bringing up old, weird stuff.

To sum up, don’t talk about the above. Keep your eyes and ears open and keep her laughing.

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One of the questions about women we often get from guys is “What should I say when I first meet her?” Because of the huge range of good date conversation topics, this can be a tricky question. It’s much easier to focus on the question, “What should I AVOID saying when I first meet her?”

With that in mind, we’re presenting you a handful of topics that you definitely do NOT want to bring up if you want to impress your date. Yes, some of these may may fly right in the face of what commonly passes as dating advice for men these days. However, we don’t hold back when it comes to dispelling myths about generic, socially-acceptable yet ultimately useless and/or harmful men’s dating advice. Kiss your sacred cows good-bye. Our advice to you is based on statistical proof of what helps guys enjoy exciting, fulfilling dates with high quality women.

Political discussion with a woman you’re meeting for the first time? Don’t go there!

1. Good date conversation does NOT include talking about politics, religion or your dead pet chameleon

Don’t. Just don’t. Not only does talking about topics like these repel attractive women faster than body odor, nobody even cares about anyone else’s soapbox tirades. Everyone’s got an opinion, and they’d much rather you LISTEN to theirs rather than spout yours off. This one’s easy – just avoid these topics, and if they come up, joke them off while redirecting the conversation back to something light, playful and funny.

2. Listing accomplishments, skills or bragging is not good date conversation and here’s why…

Some guys go on and on endlessly about each and every accomplishment in their lives. And once again, nobody cares. Women want to talk about themselves, and they want YOU to LISTEN.

The PUA call it a ‘DHV story’ because they think it demonstrates or displays high value. We call it bragging. While it may not be subtle enough for you and your bro’s to realize it is bragging, high value women know it for what it is. At the end of the day, a brag is a brag is a brag, no matter what hip, cool label you attach to it.

If she likes you right from the beginning, brag stories will work because, well, she already likes you (until she realizes that the only people who brag are the ones who are over-compensating). And if she doesn’t like the guy right off the bat, then no ‘cool story’ he shares with her is ever going to change her mind about how to feel about him on a core level (although the ill-intentioned girl out there might become convinced that you will give them free dates, meals, or attention).

Keep the conversation about her, while making her laugh. This is especially important for when you’re meeting women on the street, in bookstores, in cafes and other daily life places out and about town.

3. Talk about past girlfriends is really (really, really) not good date conversation

Don’t ever talk about them. The past is the past is the past. When any guy (or woman, for that matter) brings up an ex, someone they hooked up with years ago or even a crush from their elementary school day, it’s no longer the past. By speaking about it, it has become the PRESENT… And that basically throws a monkey wrench into the whole smooth, happy, light, playful and fun interaction we’re hoping to have with this girl we just met. That’s a lot of heavy, especially for someone we barely even know.

Some guys might say, “Oh, but that’s not true! When I was talking to this chick about how she looks like my old girlfriend, she smiled, leaned in, nodded emphatically and laughed!” While that might be true, we’re always thinking big and thinking of the long game here at Loveawake. Women can (and likely will) remember and use any random guys’ happy trip down ex-girlfriend memory lane against them at the most inopportune time.

It’s a topic that, if it doesn’t turn things sour immediately right there and then when you’re meeting her for the first time, will inevitably come back later to take a nice, healthy chomp out of your posterior. So keep the past in the past where it belongs. If you really think you need to talk about it… Well, you’re probably not meeting enough new women.

4. Please don’t talk about past mistakes or embarrassing moments with girls (but only if you want good date conversation)

When we’re interacting with women, whether we’re stepping to her on the street to get her number or putting our best foot forward on the first date, we strive to cultivate a good Image. And with that Image, we’re not aiming for perfection or invincibility. We are, however, aiming for Amazingness – and that means NOT vomiting out the sordid details about our past blunders. If she likes you, she will imagine you as Amazing a guy as you let her. Don’t take yourself off the pedestal.

We sometimes hear guys argue that sharing their less-than-flattering moments with women they meet or date shows off their vulnerability in an attractive way, something akin to the allure of the hair-pulled-over-one-eye-guitar-playing-emo-boy. Some ‘seduction’ guys might even go so far as to package this story up as deliberate “vulnerability gambit” to offset their ‘player’ vibe. And if she’s really into the guy, then it’ll work… Because anything else he does will work (as she’s already into him). However, rather than set a bad precedent with the vulnerability games, it’s much better in the long run to work on interacting with her in a way that let’s you build happy, fulfilling experiences with high quality women so that when the the Right Girl comes into your life, you’re ready.

Be happy that she doesn’t yet know about the goofy mistakes in your past. If she’s a really great girl who’s intelligent, really into you and ends up dating you for a long time, she’ll probably find them all out on her own without you ever needing to tell her. Don’t salt your own game by bringing up old, weird stuff.

To sum up, don’t talk about the above. Keep your eyes and ears open and keep her laughing.

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So, what exactly makes good first date conversation?

Should you make small talk?

Or should have a deep, meaningful conversation while dating?

This is similar to questions like “What do I talk about with girls?” or “What do I say on a date?” We’re going to give you some first date conversation advice that is a bit different from the usual advice.

Instead of small talk or deep conversations where you reveal everything about yourself, we’d like to look at the hidden third option that so many guys overlook: Having a light, playful, fun conversation.

First, let’s look at why we recommend against both small talk and deep conversation.

Why Small Talk Isn’t Good First Date Conversation

Guy: So… How’s the weather outside?

Her: Bad. It’s rainy. Just like inside my heart, because you suck at making date conversation interesting.

Guy: Oh.

Her: Yep.

Guy: So… How about them Yankees?

Why is this not good?

Why Being “Deep” Isn’t Good First Date Conversation

A good first date conversation does NOT go like this: “Wow, this food is really… Food. Um. Do you like food?”

Guy: “I love deep philosophy. I really want an intelligent girl who is passionate about those kind of things. I’m really passionate. About life. And my career. And everything. Really. What are your views on philosophy?”

Her: “I… Err…”

Guy: “…Well, uh, you know, I think it’s important to stay up to date about current events like…”

Her: “I’m leaving now.”

Guy: “Wait, don’t go! Let me tell you all about my opinions on religion, politics and my pet iguana, Zulu!”

Why is this not good?

Keep It Light, Playful and Fun For Good First Date Conversation

(On a first date with a woman you met from a direct, confident approach on the street.)

Her: “So, how often do you talk to random women on the street?”

You: “What? Women on the street? Who, me?”

Her: “Yeah, you.”

You: “Why… I’m way too shy to do something like that…” (Delivered in an obviously joking manner.)

Her: “Hahaha! Yeah, right!”

You: “So how about you? How often do you chat with strangers on the street?”

Why is this good?

Here we have a girl who’s laughing and have a fun time, plus a guy who’s keeping things light, playful and funny. This is how we like our first date conversations to flow. It makes everything so much more fun (for both parties) and a lot more easier. Best of all, this is what has been tested to work the best with really high quality women.

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So, what exactly makes good first date conversation?

Should you make small talk?

Or should have a deep, meaningful conversation while dating?

This is similar to questions like “What do I talk about with girls?” or “What do I say on a date?” We’re going to give you some first date conversation advice that is a bit different from the usual advice.

Instead of small talk or deep conversations where you reveal everything about yourself, we’d like to look at the hidden third option that so many guys overlook: Having a light, playful, fun conversation.

First, let’s look at why we recommend against both small talk and deep conversation.

Why Small Talk Isn’t Good First Date Conversation

Guy: So… How’s the weather outside?

Her: Bad. It’s rainy. Just like inside my heart, because you suck at making date conversation interesting.

Guy: Oh.

Her: Yep.

Guy: So… How about them Yankees?

Why is this not good?

Why Being “Deep” Isn’t Good First Date Conversation

A good first date conversation does NOT go like this: “Wow, this food is really… Food. Um. Do you like food?”

Guy: “I love deep philosophy. I really want an intelligent girl who is passionate about those kind of things. I’m really passionate. About life. And my career. And everything. Really. What are your views on philosophy?”

Her: “I… Err…”

Guy: “…Well, uh, you know, I think it’s important to stay up to date about current events like…”

Her: “I’m leaving now.”

Guy: “Wait, don’t go! Let me tell you all about my opinions on religion, politics and my pet iguana, Zulu!”

Why is this not good?

Keep It Light, Playful and Fun For Good First Date Conversation

(On a first date with a woman you met from a direct, confident approach on the street.)

Her: “So, how often do you talk to random women on the street?”

You: “What? Women on the street? Who, me?”

Her: “Yeah, you.”

You: “Why… I’m way too shy to do something like that…” (Delivered in an obviously joking manner.)

Her: “Hahaha! Yeah, right!”

You: “So how about you? How often do you chat with strangers on the street?”

Why is this good?

Here we have a girl who’s laughing and have a fun time, plus a guy who’s keeping things light, playful and funny. This is how we like our first date conversations to flow. It makes everything so much more fun (for both parties) and a lot more easier. Best of all, this is what has been tested to work the best with really high quality women.

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The best first date idea for men ever is…

The Time-Limited Coffee Date.

That’s all you need. In fact, other dates besides this one are going to lead you astray. The TLCD. This is an Amazing date. Let us explain.

Time limited – it’s between 45-75 minutes. We keep it short, tight, light, playful, funny and get out of there when time is up.

Coffee date – we go to an inexpensive cafe, sit down and have a drink together. You don’t actually have to get coffee (personally, I prefer fruit juice, or a pastry), but the whole idea of a “coffee date” gives guys tons of advantages:

Tried and true: the time-limited coffee date is quite possibly the best and greatest first date idea… EVER.

As simple as it sounds, these dates go really deep. It’s like a job interview… for her. You’re sizing her up. Is she just another girl passing through your life? Or is she bringing something to the table besides her good looks? And if so, what? How’s her attitude? How much is she into you?

You can get clues to all these questions and more when you bring a discerning eye to the TLCD. The more information you gather while keeping the date light, playful and funny, the better.

Some guys out there might be wondering about sex. Like, how does one get sex from a time-limited coffee date? Well, we need to be very clear about our goals here. The coffee date is designed to set up the right kind of patterns, screen out women with bad attitudes and/or aren’t into you and simply give both parties a small sample of what time with each other is like.

We like to look at the big picture, and over the long term. It’s the old cookie game. You can eat one cookie now, or wait 30 minutes and get 4 cookies. We practicing self-control, override the liquid fire testosterone in our veins and hold back on the sex. Doing so gives us more options while positioning ourselves as a Challenge – a pretty deep complicated subject that we’ll be covering in future posts.

This is much easier said than done for some guys. Others of us can get it right away. Others get it after fierce and determined practice. The pay off is more sex, better sex, more sexual variety, she’s happier, more orgasmic, likes the sex more and basically both parties sex lives are way better. But it takes that initial round of self-control.

Going into a TLCD with the attitude of “sex is OFF the table completely for this date,” we’re able to cool some of the liquid fire, bring a more objective, less emotion eye to the situation and really check out the girl to see what her deal is, and if she’s someone we want to invest our time, money and emotional energy into.

Can sex happen on the first date? It has, though that’s not the goal. Here’s a story from one of our guys about how it went down one time:

Me: Ok, well I had a fun time. (Preparing to part way)

Her: Oh, we’re leaving?

Me: We…? Well, I’m going home. I have work to do there. You can come with me if you want.

Her: Yeah! I’ll go home with you…! We can… Uh… Play cards!
Me: …Ok. If you really want to.

Her: Yay!

That’s happens sometimes, though that wasn’t the goal. When we find girls who are really into us, they make it really smooth and easy for us to both have a lot of fun. On the other hand, we’ve had wacky situations on TLCDs like this which were a lot of fun in a complete different way.

Her: What’s your job?

Me: I’m Batman.

Her: No really!

Me: Ok… You got me. My name is Bruce Wayne.

Her: If you don’t tell me, I’m not going to answer my phone when you call next time.

Me: Haha. Hey, I had a fun time. Hope you have a nice day. Bye now.

Her: …You’re leaving?

Me: (already gone)

TLCDs are a great time to figure out if the girl doesn’t vibe with you well (perhaps because she’s there more for the date-itself rather than the date with YOU) than and simply let her go, there and then. The sooner guys figure out she’s not going to make life a lot more fun, the sooner they can save themselves all the time, money, energy, emotional investment and stress that they would put into trying to ‘get’ a girl in a situation that was doomed before it even began.

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The best first date idea for men ever is…

The Time-Limited Coffee Date.

That’s all you need. In fact, other dates besides this one are going to lead you astray. The TLCD. This is an Amazing date. Let us explain.

Time limited – it’s between 45-75 minutes. We keep it short, tight, light, playful, funny and get out of there when time is up.

Coffee date – we go to an inexpensive cafe, sit down and have a drink together. You don’t actually have to get coffee (personally, I prefer fruit juice, or a pastry), but the whole idea of a “coffee date” gives guys tons of advantages:

Tried and true: the time-limited coffee date is quite possibly the best and greatest first date idea… EVER.

As simple as it sounds, these dates go really deep. It’s like a job interview… for her. You’re sizing her up. Is she just another girl passing through your life? Or is she bringing something to the table besides her good looks? And if so, what? How’s her attitude? How much is she into you?

You can get clues to all these questions and more when you bring a discerning eye to the TLCD. The more information you gather while keeping the date light, playful and funny, the better.

Some guys out there might be wondering about sex. Like, how does one get sex from a time-limited coffee date? Well, we need to be very clear about our goals here. The coffee date is designed to set up the right kind of patterns, screen out women with bad attitudes and/or aren’t into you and simply give both parties a small sample of what time with each other is like.

We like to look at the big picture, and over the long term. It’s the old cookie game. You can eat one cookie now, or wait 30 minutes and get 4 cookies. We practicing self-control, override the liquid fire testosterone in our veins and hold back on the sex. Doing so gives us more options while positioning ourselves as a Challenge – a pretty deep complicated subject that we’ll be covering in future posts.

This is much easier said than done for some guys. Others of us can get it right away. Others get it after fierce and determined practice. The pay off is more sex, better sex, more sexual variety, she’s happier, more orgasmic, likes the sex more and basically both parties sex lives are way better. But it takes that initial round of self-control.

Going into a TLCD with the attitude of “sex is OFF the table completely for this date,” we’re able to cool some of the liquid fire, bring a more objective, less emotion eye to the situation and really check out the girl to see what her deal is, and if she’s someone we want to invest our time, money and emotional energy into.

Can sex happen on the first date? It has, though that’s not the goal. Here’s a story from one of our guys about how it went down one time:

Me: Ok, well I had a fun time. (Preparing to part way)

Her: Oh, we’re leaving?

Me: We…? Well, I’m going home. I have work to do there. You can come with me if you want.

Her: Yeah! I’ll go home with you…! We can… Uh… Play cards!
Me: …Ok. If you really want to.

Her: Yay!

That’s happens sometimes, though that wasn’t the goal. When we find girls who are really into us, they make it really smooth and easy for us to both have a lot of fun. On the other hand, we’ve had wacky situations on TLCDs like this which were a lot of fun in a complete different way.

Her: What’s your job?

Me: I’m Batman.

Her: No really!

Me: Ok… You got me. My name is Bruce Wayne.

Her: If you don’t tell me, I’m not going to answer my phone when you call next time.

Me: Haha. Hey, I had a fun time. Hope you have a nice day. Bye now.

Her: …You’re leaving?

Me: (already gone)

TLCDs are a great time to figure out if the girl doesn’t vibe with you well (perhaps because she’s there more for the date-itself rather than the date with YOU) than and simply let her go, there and then. The sooner guys figure out she’s not going to make life a lot more fun, the sooner they can save themselves all the time, money, energy, emotional investment and stress that they would put into trying to ‘get’ a girl in a situation that was doomed before it even began.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594636976) } [8]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(54) "Top 3 Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You In The Beginning" ["link"]=> string(90) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/top-3-signs-a-girl-doesnt-like-you-in-the-beginning/" ["comments"]=> string(98) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/13/top-3-signs-a-girl-doesnt-like-you-in-the-beginning/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 13 Jul 2020 10:26:01 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(232) "Dating Adviceapproaching a girlbest ways to approach womendating beautiful womenGeneral Dating AdviceSigns a girl doesn't like youSigns a girl is into youSigns a girl isn't interestedSigns a girl isn't into youSigns A Girl Likes You" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5352" ["description"]=> string(319) "One of the most important skills men can develop is the ability to identify the signs a girl doesn’t like you. In fact, knowing the obvious signs a girl doesn’t like you can make finding a really great woman so much more simple. A lot of times, it’s a whole lot easier than trying to wade through the […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(5384) "

One of the most important skills men can develop is the ability to identify the signs a girl doesn’t like you.

In fact, knowing the obvious signs a girl doesn’t like you can make finding a really great woman so much more simple.

A lot of times, it’s a whole lot easier than trying to wade through the conflicting signs that she might like you.

Think about it…

Lots of girls who know all the signs to give to make a guy think she likes him.

And lots of girls will use that information to string guys along for free drinks, meals, dates, attention, even marriage (setting her up to take half your assets) from unsuspecting guys.

Those guys are totally setting themselves up for a fall when they’re only looking for the signs she liked him while ignoring all the obvious red flags that she really wasn’t interested in much more than his wallet or the self-esteem boost from getting free attention from a guy.

The Top 3 Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You

We’re only giving you 3 signs a girl doesn’t like you in this article simply because these three signs are so huge.

How did we come up with this list?

Well, talking to over 10,000 women in the past year while statistically measuring results and analyzing pattern was a big part.

That’s why I urge you to read this article AND then test it out using your own experience.

Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You #1: She Won’t Talk

One of the first signs a girl doesn’t like you is she doesn’t talk to you. Seems obvious, but there’s some men’s dating advice out there that insists guys have to ‘plow’ and ‘break through’ her resistance or bitch shield before they can ‘turn around’ the interaction. We posit that that is complete and utter BS. And we have the stats to prove it. Why put yourself through that unnecessary headache?

Bottom-line: A girl ignoring you when you greet her or staying silent as you attempt to have a conversation (conversations require two people) is her way of saying that she’s not interested… And that’s great news!

Now we can turn around and go find an even hotter woman with better taste in men (us) to stop and talk to us!

Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You #2: Unfocused Attention

The next sign a girl doesn’t like you is if her attention is focused elsewhere while talking to you.

This includes wandering eyes, facing away from you, or responding curtly to any questions you ask. She’s not giving you her attention. And to women, giving and receiving attention is one of the key ways they interact with the external world.

If she’s not giving you her attention, simply smile, wish her a nice day and go off to go find a girl who’s actually into you.

Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You #3: Ms. No-name

The last of the signs a girl doesn’t like you that I’ll talk about today is that she doesn’t give you basic information about herself when you ask.

Particularly, we’re interested in whether or not she’ll tell you her name when asked. If she’s not comfortable or attracted enough to tell you her name right off the bat, then you’re in for a long, hard, grueling, stress-filled, unhappy, soul-crushing, uphill battle. And it won’t change. Even if you are able to “get her” you’ll be forever stuck chasing her (the uphill battle) until she finally leaves you for a guy who she actually likes, either now, or after you’re married and she has legal possession over half your stuff.

That is simply NOT the way we envision dating and relating. We want all of our guys to have happy, fun, relaxing times with cool, sexy women who are totally into them.

Best to start off on the right foot – that means looking for these signs she isn’t into you and walking away if she’s not.

Move On Once You See The Signs She’s Not Into You In The Beginning

What do you do when you recognize the signs a girl doesn’t like you?

Well, after making sure there is no mutual interest , simply let her go and go talk to the next beautiful woman you see.

Every moment you spend banging your head against the wall trying to squeeze blood from a rock by talking to a girl who doesn’t like you is a moment that could have been spent looking for the girl of your dreams.

Stop playing the dancing monkey role, there are other women, usually hotter, who WILL stop and talk, be friendly, pay attention and will happily tell you their names when asked because they like you right from the beginning? It’s just not worth it in terms of time, money, stress and especially results.

It’s far more efficient and easy on the soul to simply let girls who don’t like you go while moving on to the next hot one you see with momentum and a smile.

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One of the most important skills men can develop is the ability to identify the signs a girl doesn’t like you.

In fact, knowing the obvious signs a girl doesn’t like you can make finding a really great woman so much more simple.

A lot of times, it’s a whole lot easier than trying to wade through the conflicting signs that she might like you.

Think about it…

Lots of girls who know all the signs to give to make a guy think she likes him.

And lots of girls will use that information to string guys along for free drinks, meals, dates, attention, even marriage (setting her up to take half your assets) from unsuspecting guys.

Those guys are totally setting themselves up for a fall when they’re only looking for the signs she liked him while ignoring all the obvious red flags that she really wasn’t interested in much more than his wallet or the self-esteem boost from getting free attention from a guy.

The Top 3 Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You

We’re only giving you 3 signs a girl doesn’t like you in this article simply because these three signs are so huge.

How did we come up with this list?

Well, talking to over 10,000 women in the past year while statistically measuring results and analyzing pattern was a big part.

That’s why I urge you to read this article AND then test it out using your own experience.

Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You #1: She Won’t Talk

One of the first signs a girl doesn’t like you is she doesn’t talk to you. Seems obvious, but there’s some men’s dating advice out there that insists guys have to ‘plow’ and ‘break through’ her resistance or bitch shield before they can ‘turn around’ the interaction. We posit that that is complete and utter BS. And we have the stats to prove it. Why put yourself through that unnecessary headache?

Bottom-line: A girl ignoring you when you greet her or staying silent as you attempt to have a conversation (conversations require two people) is her way of saying that she’s not interested… And that’s great news!

Now we can turn around and go find an even hotter woman with better taste in men (us) to stop and talk to us!

Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You #2: Unfocused Attention

The next sign a girl doesn’t like you is if her attention is focused elsewhere while talking to you.

This includes wandering eyes, facing away from you, or responding curtly to any questions you ask. She’s not giving you her attention. And to women, giving and receiving attention is one of the key ways they interact with the external world.

If she’s not giving you her attention, simply smile, wish her a nice day and go off to go find a girl who’s actually into you.

Signs A Girl Doesn’t Like You #3: Ms. No-name

The last of the signs a girl doesn’t like you that I’ll talk about today is that she doesn’t give you basic information about herself when you ask.

Particularly, we’re interested in whether or not she’ll tell you her name when asked. If she’s not comfortable or attracted enough to tell you her name right off the bat, then you’re in for a long, hard, grueling, stress-filled, unhappy, soul-crushing, uphill battle. And it won’t change. Even if you are able to “get her” you’ll be forever stuck chasing her (the uphill battle) until she finally leaves you for a guy who she actually likes, either now, or after you’re married and she has legal possession over half your stuff.

That is simply NOT the way we envision dating and relating. We want all of our guys to have happy, fun, relaxing times with cool, sexy women who are totally into them.

Best to start off on the right foot – that means looking for these signs she isn’t into you and walking away if she’s not.

Move On Once You See The Signs She’s Not Into You In The Beginning

What do you do when you recognize the signs a girl doesn’t like you?

Well, after making sure there is no mutual interest , simply let her go and go talk to the next beautiful woman you see.

Every moment you spend banging your head against the wall trying to squeeze blood from a rock by talking to a girl who doesn’t like you is a moment that could have been spent looking for the girl of your dreams.

Stop playing the dancing monkey role, there are other women, usually hotter, who WILL stop and talk, be friendly, pay attention and will happily tell you their names when asked because they like you right from the beginning? It’s just not worth it in terms of time, money, stress and especially results.

It’s far more efficient and easy on the soul to simply let girls who don’t like you go while moving on to the next hot one you see with momentum and a smile.

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It doesn’t matter if it’s graduation time or time for your boy to set out on his own, it’s always nice to have a list of 10 songs about boys growing into men. They grow up so quickly and we desperately want to help them get situated on a good path in life. Here are some wonderful songs about boys growing into men that may inspire you or that you may want to share with your son before he sets out into the real world.

  1. “Tough Little Boys” by Gary Allan: Tough little boys is an inspiring song about boys growing into men. Performed by popular country star Gary Allan, it’s a great slow song about how tough little boys grow into loving fathers and how the experience can change them so drastically.
  2. “I Don’t Call Him Daddy” by Doug Supernaw: Sometimes things don’t go as planned. One of the hardest hurdles to overcome for many boys, as they grow into men, is dealing with the subject of divorce and someone other than their father raising them. This is a great song about boys growing into men, both from the father and son perspective.
  3. “Country Kids” by Colt Ford: Country kids is a great country song about country boys growing into men and girls into women. If you grew up a country kid, you’ll love this celebration of the simpler things in life.
  4. “The Boys of Fall” by Kenny Chesney: This is a wonderful song about boys growing into men, as it reminds them not to focus so hard on the future and what they’re going to be, that they miss all the wonderful things going on in their life right now. This song is inspiring, not just for boys, but for anyone that takes the time to listen to it.
  5. “Cats in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin: This is a classic song about a relationship between a father and son. “Cats in the Cradle” is one of the most popular songs about boys growing into men, as well as how important it is to be there for them as they’re growing up. It sure goes by quick!
  6. “I’m an Adult Now” by Pursuit of Happiness: Children often dream about when they turn eighteen and are legally able to do whatever they want. The Pursuit of Happiness wrote this great song about boys growing into men, expressing all the changes that occur when one crosses that line from adolescence to adulthood.
  7. “Back When I Was Four” by Jeffrey Lewis: This is a great song about a boy growing into a man as it starts at age four and tells his story, touching along accomplishments he makes through adolescence and adulthood.  In the end, it’s surprising how things turn full circle and find him enjoying some of the same things he did as a boy.
  8. “Watching Scotty Grow” by Bobby Goldsboro: This is one of the most touching songs about boys growing into men. Experiencing the milestones in a son’s life, through his father’s eyes, most dads can’t help but smile at this golden oldie.
  9. “Father and Son” by Cat Stevens: If you’re looking for a good classic folk song about boys growing into men, “Father and Son” is a wonderful choice.  Telling the tale of a father and his need to impart his wisdom upon his son before he passes away, it’s very thought-provoking and deep.
  10. “Spirit of a Boy, Wisdom of a Man” by Randy Travis: This is a powerful song about a boy becoming a man, and the tough choices he’s faced with. It’s a good song that reminds us that sometimes boys want to take on too much responsibility but, in the end, they are still young boys at heart.
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It doesn’t matter if it’s graduation time or time for your boy to set out on his own, it’s always nice to have a list of 10 songs about boys growing into men. They grow up so quickly and we desperately want to help them get situated on a good path in life. Here are some wonderful songs about boys growing into men that may inspire you or that you may want to share with your son before he sets out into the real world.

  1. “Tough Little Boys” by Gary Allan: Tough little boys is an inspiring song about boys growing into men. Performed by popular country star Gary Allan, it’s a great slow song about how tough little boys grow into loving fathers and how the experience can change them so drastically.
  2. “I Don’t Call Him Daddy” by Doug Supernaw: Sometimes things don’t go as planned. One of the hardest hurdles to overcome for many boys, as they grow into men, is dealing with the subject of divorce and someone other than their father raising them. This is a great song about boys growing into men, both from the father and son perspective.
  3. “Country Kids” by Colt Ford: Country kids is a great country song about country boys growing into men and girls into women. If you grew up a country kid, you’ll love this celebration of the simpler things in life.
  4. “The Boys of Fall” by Kenny Chesney: This is a wonderful song about boys growing into men, as it reminds them not to focus so hard on the future and what they’re going to be, that they miss all the wonderful things going on in their life right now. This song is inspiring, not just for boys, but for anyone that takes the time to listen to it.
  5. “Cats in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin: This is a classic song about a relationship between a father and son. “Cats in the Cradle” is one of the most popular songs about boys growing into men, as well as how important it is to be there for them as they’re growing up. It sure goes by quick!
  6. “I’m an Adult Now” by Pursuit of Happiness: Children often dream about when they turn eighteen and are legally able to do whatever they want. The Pursuit of Happiness wrote this great song about boys growing into men, expressing all the changes that occur when one crosses that line from adolescence to adulthood.
  7. “Back When I Was Four” by Jeffrey Lewis: This is a great song about a boy growing into a man as it starts at age four and tells his story, touching along accomplishments he makes through adolescence and adulthood.  In the end, it’s surprising how things turn full circle and find him enjoying some of the same things he did as a boy.
  8. “Watching Scotty Grow” by Bobby Goldsboro: This is one of the most touching songs about boys growing into men. Experiencing the milestones in a son’s life, through his father’s eyes, most dads can’t help but smile at this golden oldie.
  9. “Father and Son” by Cat Stevens: If you’re looking for a good classic folk song about boys growing into men, “Father and Son” is a wonderful choice.  Telling the tale of a father and his need to impart his wisdom upon his son before he passes away, it’s very thought-provoking and deep.
  10. “Spirit of a Boy, Wisdom of a Man” by Randy Travis: This is a powerful song about a boy becoming a man, and the tough choices he’s faced with. It’s a good song that reminds us that sometimes boys want to take on too much responsibility but, in the end, they are still young boys at heart.
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